As it comes closer to the end of the year, There is one trick that I have mastered and that is to take deep breaths and lots and lots of deep breaths. Why? Well, I am guessing I am not alone saying these things especially as it comes closer to Christmas. First of all, how about those Christmas parking spaces or lack of, the angry drivers, the frustrated people in the queues or should I state toe tapping, arms crossed, fuming, impatient tourists. Apart from the above, there is the erratic drivers, the P Platers that ride your backside and you keep glaring at them in the rear vision mirror daring them to HIT you so you can scream at them "it will cost you!! you baboon" and well I needed my car fixed anyhow from that trolley that wacked me last year.

My deep breaths have been mastered due to trying to calm myself down and think good things, rather than wishing I had telekinesis skills to fry that person that is peeving me off. It’s easy to take breathing for granted—that is until you feel short of it. Breathing is usually an unconscious, involuntary process. In moments of high stress—giving a presentation, having a difficult conversation, getting stuck in traffic when you’re late—you may notice your breath becomes shallow and erratic, your pulse spikes, or you may even feel dizzy. These symptoms of stress are part of a sympathetic nervous system response, also known as the fight-or-flight response, designed to help us.

In other words, inhaling and exhaling slowly and consciously may help reduce symptoms of stress across populations not only over the long-term but right away. In moments like missing an important phone call or getting into an argument with a partner, we can learn to self-soothe by practising deep breathing. Breathing usually happens naturally from birth, it makes sense that many of us were not taught how to breathe properly and/or forget to do it properly.  

For now though as I am at work, trying to calm down from exploding from the sound of  Christmas carols in my ears, as I practice my breathing and patience which today comes from blogging and once I have finished I can then focus on the other parts of my life like shoving the microphone down the neck of the Christmas Carollers, so I can get my end of year report finished..:D

For now though, I bring to you destinations that must not be missed and these are: - 

Destination: - The Crossroads Event, and FaMESHed

Outfit: - Lybra - Mandy Coral - The Crossroads Event

Necklace: - Glam Affair - Charms! @ FaMESHed

Skin: - Glam Affair - Barbara Applier ( Catwa  ) Asia 03 (RARE)

Lashes: - Arte - Sweet Lashes [Catwa] @ Arte

Hair: - tram F1124 hair1 (New) In store

Stoile: -GizzA - Crystal Faux Fur Stole [Black - Stone]

Head: - CATWA HEAD AnnaGrey

Pose: - Ilaya Sophia Pose 4

We need love but all we want is danger, that’s what Taylor Swift sings out to us all.

Whether it is men wanting this in women, or women wanting this in men or equal sexes wanting this in each other, for the benefit of this post, we all seem to want the bad ‘guy’. Why is that the case?

What it all comes down to is biology. We are literally, scientifically geared to the bad guy. While women claim to want “the nice guy,” we're genetically hard-wired to want to procreate with the alpha male because he has stronger sperm. There’s just something so satisfying about taking the jerk home from the bar who’s spent most of the night intellectually challenging you in a heated verbal debate and all you want to do is strangle him with his ego, but at the same time want to jump his bones. :D.

So when it comes to sex, women are more inclined toward the fiery, passionate qualities they attribute to the “bad boy” or the alpha male, but when it comes to dating and serious relationships, women claim to want a “nice guy.” It's like we just can't help ourselves. We want those arrogant guys who make us somehow feel alive.  We love the danger. We know they're wrong for us, they'll never treat us the way we think we deserve to be treated, and instead of running for the hills, we jump on for the ride. Damn you, biology! No woman wants to be with a man who doesn't know how to assert himself. Whether we want to admit it or not, we want excitement in our relationships. We want a powerful, aggressive man. This can be a difficult thing to admit as a strong, independent female, but it is, nonetheless, true. Women don't want to be with someone who is all calm seas and clear skies; we crave constant challenges in everything we do. When it comes to love, we choose the guy who satisfies that desire. The nice guy may seem great on paper, but he turns out bland in real life. We want a project. Women like to “fix men.” A nice guy doesn’t need any taming. He’s already solid on the home front. He isn’t intense or severe.  When a woman is faced with a “bad boy,” she automatically finds the challenge to tame him alluring. His vanity is all at once angering and intoxicating. If she can bring him down to earth, it would be the ultimate accomplishment.

Destinations: - Black Fashion Fair

Hair: - enVOGUE HAIR - Whitney Fitted - Blonde  - (New) @ Black Fashion Fair