#608 I'm okay, I'm alright, Though you have gone from my life. You said that it would, Now everything is going to be all right...

I have learn’t over this past month with the loss of my mother, that the phrase “moving on” is common in the grief and loss world, but it isn’t very well understood or, frankly, all that helpful.

What does it mean? What does moving on look like? Why do people not understand that a month doesn’t seem long. How long should you grieve?  Unfortunately, there isn’t a clear answer to those questions. It all takes time is my answer.

However, I have learn't that “moving on” after the death of a loved one, or other painful life event is: -

1. You Are Not Responsible for How Others Feel about Your Grief Process
Typically, it feels like what those around us mean by “moving on” is for us to stop hurting, stop talking about it, stop remembering, stop crying, and just stop grieving. They talk about wishing we would stop dwelling on the hurt and encourage us to just let go and accept what happened. Again it takes time.

2. Moving On Doesn’t Mean Forgetting
I suspect that the primary difficulty many of us have with the phrase “moving on” is that it often feels as if we’re being told to forget our loved one or the relationship we once had. That’s not what moving on means. Moving on is more about learning to live what I call a both/and life rather than an either/or life. It’s not about grieving or forgetting, happy or sad, black or white. It’s shades of gray.


3. Embrace their life with you - Remember them
It’s about learning to live a full and happy life even as you miss and long for what you have lost. It’s about remembering and honouring the one you loved while also embracing the beauty and fullness of the life you still get to live. It’s about the brilliance of your love and the shadow of your loss coexisting in this complex and expansive experience we call living.  There are no timelines or rules to the grieving process. You will move through it at your unique pace and not one minute faster. Only you can know when you are ready to move forward after your loss.

Only you can decide what it means to let go or accept the loss you experienced. Only you can truly decide what it means to move on and move forward. Remember your loved one, remember the fun, smile, cry and laugh and each day will get better for you.

Showcasing the gorgeous works of Catwa with their new release of another awesome basic mesh head called ‘Helena’. Helena costs only L$900, just like her other basic heads and of course you can purchase the add-ons if you wish to have animations as well.  Teamed up with the new skin applier from Glam Affair called Mackyla, in America (New) @ Summerfest 16.

With so many events on at present, you shouldn’t miss out at visiting Shiny Shabby in it’s last days for this month, with one of the designers – ‘Agapee’ and their new beautiful slinky outfit called ‘Helen’ in which I showcase the maitreya top in Helen for this pic.

So what are you waiting for, come take a run to these destinations for today: -

 

Destinations: - Shiny Shabby, Summerfest 16, and Catwa

Top: - *agp* Agapee Helen Tops-Maitreya - (New) @ Shiny Shabby

Head: - Mesh Head: Catwa HEAD Helena V4.9 by Catwa Clip - (New) @ Catwa
Skin Applier: - Glam Affair - Catwa Applier - MacKyla (America) – (New) @ Summerfest 16
Hair: - Exile:: Morning Glory
Necklace: - Aubrie Necklace @ Zibska
Bracelet: - Cae :: Mantra :: Life :: Bracelet @ Cae
Mesh Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.5 by Onyx LeShelle