I have learn’t over this past month with the loss of
my mother, that the phrase “moving on” is common in the grief and loss
world, but it isn’t very well understood or, frankly, all that helpful.
What does it mean? What does moving on look like? Why do people not
understand that a month doesn’t seem long. How long should you grieve? Unfortunately, there isn’t a clear answer to
those questions. It all takes time is my answer.
However, I have learn't that “moving on” after
the death of a loved one, or other painful life event is: -
1. You Are Not Responsible for How Others Feel about Your Grief ProcessTypically, it feels like what those around us mean by “moving on” is for us to stop hurting, stop talking about it, stop remembering, stop crying, and just stop grieving. They talk about wishing we would stop dwelling on the hurt and encourage us to just let go and accept what happened. Again it takes time.
I suspect that the primary difficulty many of us have with the phrase “moving on” is that it often feels as if we’re being told to forget our loved one or the relationship we once had. That’s not what moving on means. Moving on is more about learning to live what I call a both/and life rather than an either/or life. It’s not about grieving or forgetting, happy or sad, black or white. It’s shades of gray.
3. Embrace their life with you - Remember them
It’s about learning to live a full and happy life even as you miss and long for what you have lost. It’s about remembering and honouring the one you loved while also embracing the beauty and fullness of the life you still get to live. It’s about the brilliance of your love and the shadow of your loss coexisting in this complex and expansive experience we call living. There are no timelines or rules to the grieving process. You will move through it at your unique pace and not one minute faster. Only you can know when you are ready to move forward after your loss.
Only you can
decide what it means to let go or accept the loss you experienced. Only you can
truly decide what it means to move on and move forward. Remember your loved
one, remember the fun, smile, cry and laugh and each day will get better for
you.
Showcasing the gorgeous works of Catwa with their new release of another awesome
basic mesh head called ‘Helena’.
Helena costs only L$900, just like her other basic heads and of course you can
purchase the add-ons if you wish to have animations as well. Teamed up with the new skin applier from Glam Affair called Mackyla, in America (New) @
Summerfest 16.
With so many events on at present, you shouldn’t miss out at visiting Shiny
Shabby in it’s last days for this month, with one of the designers – ‘Agapee’
and their new beautiful slinky outfit called ‘Helen’ in which I showcase the
maitreya top in Helen for this pic.
So what are you waiting for, come take a run to these destinations for
today: -
Top: - *agp* Agapee Helen Tops-Maitreya - (New) @ Shiny Shabby
Head: - Mesh Head: Catwa HEAD Helena V4.9 by Catwa
Clip - (New) @ CatwaSkin Applier: - Glam Affair - Catwa Applier - MacKyla (America) – (New) @ Summerfest 16
Hair: - Exile:: Morning Glory
Necklace: - Aubrie Necklace @ Zibska
Bracelet: - Cae :: Mantra :: Life :: Bracelet @ Cae
Mesh Body: Maitreya Mesh Body – Lara V3.5 by Onyx LeShelle
