#580 It's ok to say No...

“All of our unhappiness comes from our inability to be alone.” – Jean de la Bruyere

Being alone and being lonely are not the same thing. I am used to spending time alone. I’m not single, but being alone (as in no one around for ½ day etc etc) is a new concept for me. I have brothers and sisters, I have nephews and nieces, (lots). I loved being around people, and absolutely hated my own time. It is along the way that I learnt to appreciate my alone time. This has caused many people in my life to worry about me. They think something is wrong. They think I am depressed and unhappy. Whilst others think I have become unsociable and some have taken it personally. I have lost some friends along the way because they were so used to just dropping over every day, if not twice a day and I ended up saying, “I love you, but can you come another day”?

What may seem rude to them is that I don’t need their undivided attention anymore, I have learnt as well to say NO. I was known as the person who was always busy and never home, always available anytime. The truth is that I found it exhausting but I didn’t know any other way to be. It was the only way I knew how to be part of a social circle that I could relate to in any way.

I am a very private person and although I connect with people easily, I am selective about making friends and letting people into my life. So, rather than be alone, I did what I needed to in order to stay part of my social circle.  I always felt like I didn’t quite relate or fit in, but at the same time I didn’t want to stand out or be different — I wanted to feel part of the group. We had similar backgrounds and shared an interest in music, attending concerts, eating out and travelling. I had many fun and enjoyable times, but I couldn’t help but feel as though something was missing. It was depth and substance that was missing.

So peace and alone time is something I had never experienced. In fact, it wasn’t even something I knew I wanted until two-three years ago when I was at an emotional breaking point and peace and alone time was the only two things that kept me sane. I had to take a step back from life. The truth is spending time alone is how I rediscovered my happiness. I had time to reflect on what made me happy and what had been causing me pain. I became aware of the people in my life who contributed positive energy and intentions and those who did not. Most importantly, for the first time in my life, I felt at peace.

I’d love you to share your experience. How do you feel about spending time alone?

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