“All
of our unhappiness comes from our inability to be alone.” – Jean de la Bruyere
Being alone and being lonely are not the same
thing. I am used to spending time alone. I’m not single, but being alone (as in
no one around for ½ day etc etc) is a new concept for me. I have brothers and sisters, I have nephews and nieces,
(lots). I loved being around people, and absolutely hated my own time. It is
along the way that I learnt to appreciate my alone time. This has caused many people in my life to
worry about me. They think something is wrong. They think I am depressed and
unhappy. Whilst others think I have become unsociable and some have taken it
personally. I have lost some friends along the way because they were so used to
just dropping over every day, if not twice a day and I ended up saying, “I love
you, but can you come another day”?
What may seem rude to them is that I don’t need
their undivided attention anymore, I have learnt as well to say NO. I was known
as the person who was always busy and never home, always available anytime. The
truth is that I found it exhausting but I didn’t know any other way to be. It
was the only way I knew how to be part of a social circle that I could relate
to in any way.
I am a very private person and although I connect with people easily, I
am selective about making friends and letting people into my life. So, rather
than be alone, I did what I needed to in order to stay part of my social
circle. I always felt like I didn’t
quite relate or fit in, but at the same time I didn’t want to stand out or be
different — I wanted to feel part of the group. We had similar backgrounds and
shared an interest in music, attending concerts, eating out and travelling. I
had many fun and enjoyable times, but I couldn’t help but feel as though
something was missing. It was depth and substance that was missing.
So peace and alone time is something I had never experienced. In fact,
it wasn’t even something I knew I wanted until two-three years ago when I was
at an emotional breaking point and peace and alone time was the only two things
that kept me sane. I had to take a step back from life. The truth is spending
time alone is how I rediscovered my happiness. I had time to reflect on what
made me happy and what had been causing me pain. I became aware of the people
in my life who contributed positive energy and intentions and those who did
not. Most importantly, for the first time in my life, I felt at peace.
I’d love you to share your experience. How do you feel about spending
time alone?
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