19.3.17

#668 Untouchable...


Call it the grass-is-greener effect. Almost everyone has found themselves drowning in romantic feelings for a man or woman she can’t have — either because the object of her affection is in a relationship with someone else or because she herself is (or both). Sometimes we fantasize constantly about the forbidden crush but don't take it any further than that. Other times we actually act on our feelings by engaging in a sexual relationship with the unavailable person. 

Of course, you can wallow in “why me” misery or wish for a happy ending in which that unavailable person becomes suddenly available to you. But there are healthy ways to deal with this all-too-common situation that won't waste your energy or wreck your life. Here are some tips for coping. 

1. Accept that your feelings are normal. 
A wedding ring is a pretty good sign that someone is in a committed relationship, but that little band of gold can't prevent you from suddenly finding yourself drawn to someone who isn't your spouse or significant other. Even people who have been in partnerships with the same person for years can easily feel attracted to someone else“Attraction doesn’t end once we’re in a relationship., but if they are married then it is time to look away. 

2. Know that unavailability often makes people more attractive. 
Seriously, love does not make any sense. Why would someone seem more appealing if he or she is obviously taken? At least for women, self-esteem issues may be at the root of the problem. 
Women who lust for unavailable partners may be unconsciously hoping that the person will finally commit and make them feel worthy. Again time to find someone that is not taken.  

3. Ask yourself if you’re being competitive. 
Take it from Taylor Swift — sometimes all you want is to tell your friend's partner, "You belong with meeeee." Maybe that's because you think that unavailable guy or girl is hot; or maybe it's because you're trying to one-up your pal.  

If the object of your affection (or the person you’ve already gotten involved with) is actually attached,   consider whether your feelings might stem from a competitive spirit. Then think about how you can curb these competitive urges in a healthy way, without ruining either your friendship or your friend’s relationship or the guy/gal that your fantasizing about.. 

Wait till he wants you not the other way around. In other words don't chase!! 

Showcasing the amazing new works available now from some awesome designers. For more information, come take a walk to our destinations for today: -

Destinations: - Shiny Shabby (Opening 20th March), Kustom 9, and The Liaison Collaborative

Table: - Serenity Style- Heavenly Table - (New) @ Shiny Shabby
Stool: - Serenity Style- Heavenly Stool - (New) Shiny Shabby
Boxes: - Serenity Style- Heavenly Boxes  - (New) Shiny Shabby
Cushions: - Serenity Style- Heavenly Pile of Cushions - (New) Shiny Shabby
Quilts: - Serenity Style- Heavenly Pile of Quilts - (New) Shiny Shabby
Vase: - Serenity Style- Heavenly Vase - (New) Shiny Shabby
Painting: - 6. GA - Still Life - Tiramisu Painting - (New) @ Kustom 9
Clock: - 14. GA - Still Life - Clock - (New) Kustom 9
:HAIKEI: Forever Yours_Gacha / {2} - (New) Kustom 9
Dress and Bag: -=Zenith=Shopping day dress  with Bag (Black) -Maitreya - (New) Kustom 9
House: - Trompe Loeil - Garden Bard Abode (no gardens)
Hair: -+elua+ Kira_Lightblonde [fitted]

Pose:  Bauhaus Movement - F*ck the mainstream 27 (New) @ The Liaison Collaborative




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