#635 Scruffy Hospitality...

A woman I admire very much said something so simple to me when I was complaining about the state of mess in my house.. She said whenever someone was coming to her home — a home with five children in it — and she started to worry about how her home looked, she would stop and think: "Are they coming to see me, or are they coming to see my home?" It occurred to her that someone who would have a problem with her home looking like a family of seven lived in it wasn't really someone's opinion she cared about.  I'd love to say I embraced that wisdom immediately, but I didn't. Slowly, though, I have let go of some of the crazy things I believed must happen before people entered my front door. The first thing I let go was the dog and cat hairs. A sweep I did do, but would fret seeing a ball of hair fly across the timber floors.  Over the years, I've became more relaxed. Next, I didn't dust. Nobody said a word, and they came back again. 0.0.. :)
I didn't plan the entire meal around foods I could prepare ahead of time so my kitchen could be spotless when my guests arrived. Friends jumped in the kitchen mainly desert time, am hopeless at deserts and they helped me finish making dinner, and we had fun.
I call this scruffy hospitality. Scruffy hospitality means you’re not waiting for everything in your house to be in order before you host and serve friends in your home. Scruffy hospitality means you hunger more for good conversation and serving a simple meal of what you have, not what you don’t have. It's hard to let go of the belief that our homes need to be picture-perfect — or maybe I should say "Pinterest-perfect" — before we can welcome guests. The idea that we must make our home look unlived in before having people over stops so many of us from sharing life together. So next time you are about to entertain, think really is it that bad?

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