#443 My beautiful Anchor with Zerkalo and Entice

" A bend in the road is not the end of the road.. unless you fail to make the turn. " by Unknown
Let’s face it: we all dwell on the past from time to time. That’s okay—we’re human beings with emotions. As we live life and experience it to its fullest, it’s only natural that we sometimes cling onto what once was. But when our desire to cling to the past affects our future, we begin a potentially unhealthy and seemingly endless battle with anchors that can hold us down and sink us. 
There comes a time in your life that you sometimes carry an anchor and you feel the weight of the world on your shoulders. My anchor is putting my mother into a home. Whilst I will never forgive myself I had no other way of managing her and working full time
Whether you’ve experienced a break-up, a tragic death, a streak of bad luck, or a decision like I have these things can  anchor you to the past. These tips may help you let go and move forward.

1. Anchor your ship. Allow yourself time to cling to the anchors that bind you. Though it may seem like a strange piece of advice, this is the first step in the process of moving on. Perhaps set a half hour every night to “dwell,” then challenge yourself not to dwell before or after then.

2. Think it through. When you begin to dwell on the past more than you feel is healthy, ask yourself a series of open-ended questions: Why does this memory matter to me? Does it serve me to restrict certain opportunities because they remind me of this memory?

3. Stop rehashing. People love to rehash their problems in the hope of gaining new insight or hearing what they want to hear, This will not work. In fact, you may feel even more compelled to dwell on the past. If you stop telling your story, you’ll realize more and more each day that you’re the one in control. You have the power to un-anchor yourself.

4. Toss  ’em in a box. This is a crafty way of letting go of the anchor. Find any old shoebox and stuff it with memories you may have of whatever’s holding you down. Shut the box and hide it until you’re ready to revisit it again with a different mindset. The key is to not allow yourself to hide it forever, but to get yourself to a place where you can achieve acceptance.

5. Make new memories. Keep yourself busy with physical activity, join a club and meet like-minded people, meet someone who has no clue what you do for a living and why you do it, and just live as much as you can. Every day, you have the opportunity to make new memories happen. This is a gift we often take for granted.

Remember, anchors don’t have to hold you  down. If you choose to let go, they can become slight road-bends in the endless highway of life.

Coming to you direct from The Secret Affair our destination for today, I bring to you the amazing 'Zerkalo' with her newest creations called the 'Zerkalo Fishermans Kit'.

Wearing the adorable outfit from Entice as a sneak preview to the Penumbra Spring/Summer Fashion Week, come take a walk to: -


Destinations: -  The Secret Affair and Entice

Outfit: - Entice - Whole New World Top & Pants - Tan (New) @ Penumbra SS15 (Coming Soon)
Face: - LeLutka Mesh Head-EVER
Hair: - Lena Hair by Rowne (Light Blonde)
Sack: - Zerkalo Fishermans Kit (Sack 4a, Sacks 1a, Sacks A, Sacks B) (New) @ The Secret Affair
Crates - Zerkalo Fishermans Kit ( Crate 1, and Crate 2) (New) @ The Secret Affair
Resting Place: - Zerkalo Fishermans Resting Place (New) @ The Secret Affair
Floating Dock Platform and CR Jetty -  at Neva River

Pose: - Sky 2 Pose from Bauhaus Movement