#447 I always get what I want with Tableau Vivant, Glam Affair, Zerkalo, K-Band, Fri. and Revival



“You can’t always get what you want . . .” The Rolling Stones has been singing this praise for as long as I can remember.
This decade old song, addresses a universal truth. Here’s the rest of the refrain:

You get what you need.
You can't always get what you want . . .
But if you try sometimes
You just might find..

So tell me what is it that you really wanted and didn't get?
The affections of a person who was with someone else? Like that dream job?
 The last cinnamon bagel snapped up by the customer in front of you?
These scenarios range from trivial to potentially life-changing, but they all have one thing in common: see below.

1) Heightened attention.- When something is hard to get (or forbidden) you immediately pay more attention to it. Notice that when you are on a diet, you sometimes get too focused on what you 'can't eat. This heightened attention can escalate into obsession. It makes the forbidden food seem very important. Your inner brat takes advantage of this and tries to convince you that you MUST have that chocolate and or pizza.

2. Perceived scarcity: When something is scarce or in short supply, its perceived value increases. You want it more because you think other people also want it. If you’ve ever bid at auctions or on eBay, you know the experience of that last-minute excitement as you watch the bids spiral upward. The more people who bid, the more you’re willing to pay for the item. Your inner brat wants it at any price.

3. Psychological Reactance: People don’t like to be told they can’t have or can’t do something. It’s related to not wanting to be controlled by others, especially if the situation feels unfair or arbitrary. Your reaction is both emotional and behavioural. The emotional part is your inner brat saying, “Oh yeah? I can’t have what I want? Just try and stop me!”
The behavioral component is what you do about it, which usually involves some type of rebellious reaction. You see this with teenagers whose parents have forbidden them to date certain people. This also explains why a “Wet Paint” sign always invites unwanted fingerprints on the newly painted surface. Correct?

Next time you don’t get what you want, ask yourself whether one of the above factors has influenced your desire. If so, let go of the pursuit. Your inner brat won’t be happy, but ultimately (in the words of the Rolling Stones,) you “might just find [that] you get what you need.” So in the spirit of getting what you want and what you need, The Shiny Shabby Event opened its 'May' round on the 20th of this month and there is so much available for you all to see. After pushing and shoving people out of the way to see the awesome stores, (only kidding), I have so many blog posts to share with you.

Wearing the stunning new delights from Glam Affair and Tableau Vivant with their new releases just for you at Shiny Shabby, not to mention the gorgeous works of K-Band, Fri. and Revival and of course my favorite the creative Zerkalo with their Love Nest works with more of this to come.

So what are you waiting for, come take a walk to our destination for today: -

Destination: - @ Shiny Shabby - May Round

Top: - K-Band Collar Shirts (Mint) from Kitt Ragu New @ Shiny Shabby
Hair: - Fresh Messs - Tableau Vivant  New @ Shiny Shabby
Socks: - Glam Affair High Socks - White New @ Shiny Shabby
Boots: - Fri. Muddy Boots New @ Shiny Shabby
Pillow Basket: - Revival Pillow Basket New @ Shiny Shabby
Rug: - Love Nest Rug - Zerkalo New @ Shiny Shabby
House: - 22769 The Hatake House - @ Neva River
Body: - Maitreya Mesh Body - V3.3 (New Update)