“No bird can fly without opening its wings, and no one can love without
exposing their hearts” Mark Nepo
To explain what this quote means. As a child I learned boundaries. I
learned what I wasn’t allowed to do or talk about outside of the family. I learned
how far I could go with my parents before I faced their disapproval and most of
all I learned that I trusted them. People all over Secondlife, and or just having
face to face conversations with friend’s, state that they find it hard to trust
people. I have always wondered why
people feel this way. They say, “Every time I’ve trusted people in the past
I’ve been let down, so now it’s easier and less painful, I just do what I want
rather than risk getting hurt again”.
Some people work through trust issues quickly others don’t or struggle. When you
find yourself deciding whether or not to trust someone, it’s
important to figure out the reasons why.
Below are three reasons that can hold you back from trusting others:
1. Trust combinations – Our propensity to trust is
based on many factors, chief among them being our personality, early childhood
role models and experiences, beliefs and values, culture, self-awareness and
emotional maturity. The combination of these factors and experiences shapes how
quickly, and how much trust we extend to others. Your experiences may have
resulted in you viewing trust as something to be earned, not given, so
therefore you withhold trust from others until you’re absolutely sure they
deserve it.
2. You need to clarify expectations – Unrealistic, unspoken, and
unclear expectations are a primary cause for low or broken trust in relationships,
and the higher the expectations the more likely it is they won’t be met. Trust
usually isn’t something people openly talk about or address in relationships
until it’s been broken, and by then it’s often too late to salvage the
relationship or the breach of trust seems too big to overcome. Clarifying
expectations is preventative medicine when it comes to trust.
3. Let go of past hurts –Those who have been hurt by
broken relationships in the past often hurt other people in a dysfunctional
form of self-protection. Whether it’s unnecessarily withholding trust, having
unrealistic expectations of others, or playing a victim mentality, lashing out
at others, or operating out of low self-esteem, our past experiences with
broken trust can easily derail us from developing healthy, high-trust
relationships. It’s critical to not let our past hurts dictate our present
relationships.
Trust is as vital to healthy relationships as oxygen is to a scuba
diver; survival is impossible without it. Whether it’s a naturally low
propensity to trust, having unrealistic expectations, or letting go of our past
hurts, we have to move beyond these reasons if we want to have trust-filled
relationships in the future.
Showcasing
the beautiful new creativity from Zerkalo with their ‘Aurora Hideout’ available
now at Chapter Four which is the destination I bring to you for today: -
Destination:
- Zerkalo
@ The Chapter Four
Canopy: - Zerkalo Canopy - Aurora’s Hideout (New) @ The Chapter Four
Chair
(Adult): - Zerkalo
Chair - Aurora’s Hideout (New) @ The Chapter FourRug: - Zerkalo Rug - Aurora’s Hideout (New) @ The Chapter Four
Flower Heart: - Zerkalo Flower Heart - Aurora’s Hideout (New) @ The Chapter Four
Pillow: - Zerkalo Pillow - Aurora’s Hideout (New) @ The Chapter Four
Birdcage: - Zerkalo True Love Gacha
Arcade Love Birds:– Scarlet Creative – Arcade Love Birds – Old Arcade item
Flock of Doves: - Anc No Limits Flock of Doves - Sugar White - 4
Destination
taken at “Blur”
